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My son and the passing on of music

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Little story from last night. My son is 7. He's a lot like me in many ways. His mom and I are divorced and we split custody of my son and my daughter 50/50.

I've loved music for as long as I can remember. I loved it before I could understand it. Guess it was just supposed to be the passion of my life.

I had an older cousin who turned me on to a lot of music I would not have heard as a suburban kid growing up in the late 80's in Wisconsin: Husker Du, The Smiths, The Clash, and so many more. He never "told" me what I should listen to. He would play a lot of different things and let me "discover" what I liked and from there he would offer suggestions for other bands of the same ilk, but it was really a process of personal musical self discovery.

I'm trying to raise my kids the same way. I play them a lot of music - mostly in the car, but sometimes we'll play videos on YouTube. I can already see my son's musical interest growing and developing.

I didn't have them this past weekend (we swap weekends back and forth) and so I did not see him from Friday morning until Tuesday afternoon. We get home - me from work and them from school and everyone just takes 30 minutes to relax. My son tells me that he wants to play a song for me - a song that he really likes and a song that reminds him of me and a song that was "stuck" in his head all weekend.

I had him the remote and he fires up YouTube and proceeds to play Joe's "Coma Girl" - which I had played for him recently. Made me proud!

Anyway, just a little story - but I love the idea of passing down songs from generation to generation. That means they never die. I have no idea where my son's musical interests will settle, but I hope one of the bands he picks up on and carries with him through his life will be the good ole' Clash!
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I have an 11 year old daughter and though she likes her own music (and demands it in the car), she always has a good singalong when the Clash come on. She sang along with Should I Stay every time it was featured in Stranger Things.
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WestwayKid wrote:
27 Sep 2017, 10:51am
Little story from last night. My son is 7. He's a lot like me in many ways. His mom and I are divorced and we split custody of my son and my daughter 50/50.

I've loved music for as long as I can remember. I loved it before I could understand it. Guess it was just supposed to be the passion of my life.

I had an older cousin who turned me on to a lot of music I would not have heard as a suburban kid growing up in the late 80's in Wisconsin: Husker Du, The Smiths, The Clash, and so many more. He never "told" me what I should listen to. He would play a lot of different things and let me "discover" what I liked and from there he would offer suggestions for other bands of the same ilk, but it was really a process of personal musical self discovery.

I'm trying to raise my kids the same way. I play them a lot of music - mostly in the car, but sometimes we'll play videos on YouTube. I can already see my son's musical interest growing and developing.

I didn't have them this past weekend (we swap weekends back and forth) and so I did not see him from Friday morning until Tuesday afternoon. We get home - me from work and them from school and everyone just takes 30 minutes to relax. My son tells me that he wants to play a song for me - a song that he really likes and a song that reminds him of me and a song that was "stuck" in his head all weekend.

I had him the remote and he fires up YouTube and proceeds to play Joe's "Coma Girl" - which I had played for him recently. Made me proud!

Anyway, just a little story - but I love the idea of passing down songs from generation to generation. That means they never die. I have no idea where my son's musical interests will settle, but I hope one of the bands he picks up on and carries with him through his life will be the good ole' Clash!
Very cool. You are doing it right! I like to expose my 8 year old son to my kind of music too (my husband has very questionable taste). He's seen Blondie and the Violent Femmes in concert, and I am taking him to see the Pixies in a couple of weeks. He loves the Clash, Violent Femmes, Blondie, Ramones, Depeche Mode and David Bowie. In fact, last weekend, Peter Schilling's "Major Tom" was playing on the radio and he asked me if it was about Bowie. I'm sure when he gets older I will lose my sway with him and he will rebel by starting to listen to my husband's music or something, but so far, so good.
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I was brought up in a house that always had music of some sort playing and I guess that rubbed off on and me as my house is the same.
Interestingly as a kid I don't think it matters what music is playing and it doesn't necessarily influence what music you like when you are older just that you have an ear for and interest in music.
My mum listenened to singers like Jack Jones and Gladys Knight plus a lot of musical soundtracks (Hair, Joseph, Evita etc). My Dad listened to a lot of Jazz and classical. On top of that my mum was a piano teacher and sang in amateur operettas so we often had Gilbert and Sullivan or worse real Opera ( which I hate).
My older brother also listened to Bowie, Alice Cooper, Elton John but as soon as I was old enough I found my music in the Pistols et al.
I guess what I am saying is music is a habit or way of life that can be taught but taste is individual?

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JennyB wrote:
27 Sep 2017, 2:51pm
Very cool. You are doing it right! I like to expose my 8 year old son to my kind of music too (my husband has very questionable taste). He's seen Blondie and the Violent Femmes in concert, and I am taking him to see the Pixies in a couple of weeks. He loves the Clash, Violent Femmes, Blondie, Ramones, Depeche Mode and David Bowie. In fact, last weekend, Peter Schilling's "Major Tom" was playing on the radio and he asked me if it was about Bowie. I'm sure when he gets older I will lose my sway with him and he will rebel by starting to listen to my husband's music or something, but so far, so good.
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If lil baby gurl doesn't grow up loving Springsteen outtakes, I'll be sorely disappointed.
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Dr. Medulla wrote:
27 Sep 2017, 3:18pm
JennyB wrote:
27 Sep 2017, 2:51pm
Very cool. You are doing it right! I like to expose my 8 year old son to my kind of music too (my husband has very questionable taste). He's seen Blondie and the Violent Femmes in concert, and I am taking him to see the Pixies in a couple of weeks. He loves the Clash, Violent Femmes, Blondie, Ramones, Depeche Mode and David Bowie. In fact, last weekend, Peter Schilling's "Major Tom" was playing on the radio and he asked me if it was about Bowie. I'm sure when he gets older I will lose my sway with him and he will rebel by starting to listen to my husband's music or something, but so far, so good.
Leading to you and Ari being part of an Amber Alert as you drive furiously away from Jortsville.
:lol: :lol: :lol:
Thankfully, I have been training him well. They were in the basement the other day and Scott said to Ari, "I'm going to put a record on." Ari replied, "make sure it's one of mommy's."
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JennyB wrote:
27 Sep 2017, 3:30pm
Dr. Medulla wrote:
27 Sep 2017, 3:18pm
JennyB wrote:
27 Sep 2017, 2:51pm
Very cool. You are doing it right! I like to expose my 8 year old son to my kind of music too (my husband has very questionable taste). He's seen Blondie and the Violent Femmes in concert, and I am taking him to see the Pixies in a couple of weeks. He loves the Clash, Violent Femmes, Blondie, Ramones, Depeche Mode and David Bowie. In fact, last weekend, Peter Schilling's "Major Tom" was playing on the radio and he asked me if it was about Bowie. I'm sure when he gets older I will lose my sway with him and he will rebel by starting to listen to my husband's music or something, but so far, so good.
Leading to you and Ari being part of an Amber Alert as you drive furiously away from Jortsville.
:lol: :lol: :lol:
Thankfully, I have been training him well. They were in the basement the other day and Scott said to Ari, "I'm going to put a record on." Ari replied, "make sure it's one of mommy's."
"Face!" And then you strut out of the room.
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Dr. Medulla wrote:
27 Sep 2017, 3:37pm
JennyB wrote:
27 Sep 2017, 3:30pm
Dr. Medulla wrote:
27 Sep 2017, 3:18pm
JennyB wrote:
27 Sep 2017, 2:51pm
Very cool. You are doing it right! I like to expose my 8 year old son to my kind of music too (my husband has very questionable taste). He's seen Blondie and the Violent Femmes in concert, and I am taking him to see the Pixies in a couple of weeks. He loves the Clash, Violent Femmes, Blondie, Ramones, Depeche Mode and David Bowie. In fact, last weekend, Peter Schilling's "Major Tom" was playing on the radio and he asked me if it was about Bowie. I'm sure when he gets older I will lose my sway with him and he will rebel by starting to listen to my husband's music or something, but so far, so good.
Leading to you and Ari being part of an Amber Alert as you drive furiously away from Jortsville.
:lol: :lol: :lol:
Thankfully, I have been training him well. They were in the basement the other day and Scott said to Ari, "I'm going to put a record on." Ari replied, "make sure it's one of mommy's."
"Face!" And then you strut out of the room.
That's exactly what happend. Seriously! I pointed at him when I said face, but other than that, it was exactly what happened.
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50.5W "Dad can you turn your music down its too loud and I am trying to study organic chemistry".
Me "I can't hear you music is too loud".
50.5W haha TURN IT DOWN".
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JennyB wrote:
27 Sep 2017, 4:26pm
Dr. Medulla wrote:
27 Sep 2017, 3:37pm
"Face!" And then you strut out of the room.
That's exactly what happend. Seriously! I pointed at him when I said face, but other than that, it was exactly what happened.
Facing is the greatest thing Xers ever came up with.
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Dr. Medulla wrote:
27 Sep 2017, 4:46pm
JennyB wrote:
27 Sep 2017, 4:26pm
Dr. Medulla wrote:
27 Sep 2017, 3:37pm
"Face!" And then you strut out of the room.
That's exactly what happend. Seriously! I pointed at him when I said face, but other than that, it was exactly what happened.
Facing is the greatest thing Xers ever came up with.
Totally. And misanthropy. But face more.
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I give thanks every day that my parents weren't Clash fans because I then would automatically have had to hate them.

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Low Down Low wrote:
27 Sep 2017, 5:26pm
I give thanks every day that my parents weren't Clash fans because I then would automatically have had to hate them.
But surely you've come to hate them organically on your own :mrgreen:
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Hello,

Like some others, my son (23 years old) grew up listening to the Clash, Ramones, Specials, Sly & Robbie, etc. He especially loved Rockaway Beach. As he grew, he developed his own taste, which runs along rap/hip-hop like many of his peers. His taste in rap is good as he doesn't deal with the poseurs of gangster/materialistic/misogynist rap. He recognizes, and likes the Clash et al. although it's not his first choice. All told, he respects the Clash, Ramones, Gang of Four even though they're not "his" music and will listen/enjoy when they're playing. After all, that music is ~40 years old.

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